Happy New Year!
Have you made your resolutions list yet?
I don’t believe in resolutions. And here’s why:
How many years have gone by where you had your resolutions set and then by mid January (about now) you’ve already started to pick them apart and make every excuse as to why you can’t accomplish them?
I know this to be true because this was me a few years ago and I guarantee most everyone else does it too!
This year I want to offer you a different perspective. Instead of making a laundry list of resolutions that you will never accomplish, I challenge you to make ONE promise to yourself. One promise that you can commit to 100%! One promise that you will do everything in your power and control to make a reality for you. Write it down and put it where you can see it and be reminded of it every day.
What this does is it changes your list of one to ten small resolutions into ONE meaningful movement in your life!
For example, I want to travel to San Francisco and Vegas in 2017 to celebrate my 40th… Yeah, it’s a big year for me!!!
I need to make some big adjustments to make this happen. But I am committed 100% to making it work. Whether it’s a financial adjustment or a childcare adjustment…whatever it is, I will figure it out because it means that much to me.
With that being said, when you have your one promise—your biggest dream/goal—you can still get off track. You can still lose focus if things aren’t manifesting fast enough. You can still lose hope that it won’t happen at all.
And when this happens, it can be easy to start making excuses, which further slows your momentum.
So today, I have a fun exercise for you that you can do when the excuses train pulls into the station… toot, toot!!
I have to credit the lovely Marie Forlio for teaching it to me, but I threw my own spin on it.
Exercise: THE MAGIC 20
Get into a quiet, safe space and take a few deep breaths… Make sure your mind is completely clear. On a piece of notebook paper, write down your ONE goal/dream/promise that you want to achieve—THE BIG ONE!!
Write it in BIG, BOLD LETTERS and say it out loud! “My goal is…”
Now for the fun part! Be creative here. Don’t edit yourself and stop judging!! Write down ten excuses as to why you can’t/won’t achieve this goal.
This is a good practice because we all do it. We start to make excuses, which validates to ourselves why something can’t be done. That’s when we spiral into the negative thinking and self-talk. For most of us we kind of live here and get comfortable, which then causes the dream to feel too big to manifest!
But we also know that when we really want something, we can usually find a way to get it!
So write down the excuses you have…let them all out!! What are they? You don’t have enough money, time, resources, love, the right environment—whatever it is that you tell yourself.
When your excuses are written out, write down ten actionable steps you are willing to do to accomplish your BIG goal.
Maybe it’s finding support in a friend, securing another job, selling something, hiring a trainer, buying a membership to an organization, or taking a trip. Maybe it’s even leaving your partner if it’s a bad relationship.
The actions will vary for everyone, but once you do this simple exercise your mind will begin to shift because you’ll see how much is in your control after all!
And don’t forget too that there is a Higher Power at work for us to fill in the rest. The Universe is working hard to bring the right gifts to us, even if they don’t come in the form we may have wanted.
A Coach recently told me that I am more in my masculine energy, which means that I’m a doer. I use logic. I need certainty. This year, one of my goals is to be more in the feminine energy because that’s where you create more beauty, that’s where you experience vulnerability, that’s where you have trust and stronger faith.
Being in the masculine energy is not a bad thing—it’s gotten me to where I am today, but it’s also important to work at balance. I look at most of the people in my life and I see a lot of that masculine energy—that constant doing—because let’s face it, we’re all busy and running around in our lives and not necessarily trusting enough in our own power and that of the Universe!
You need both the masculine and the feminine. You need goals and dreams and maybe sometimes “resolutions” in order to feel a part of something—purposeful if you will. But if you really want to make your dreams a reality this year then stop with the excuses, go after what you want no matter the risks, and bring more TRUST into your life.
Continue to be uniquely you!
P.S. Comment below and share your ONE promise!