THE MAGIC 20

 

 

Happy New Year!

Have you made your resolutions list yet?

I don’t believe in resolutions. And here’s why:

How many years have gone by where you had your resolutions set and then by mid January (about now) you’ve already started to pick them apart and make every excuse as to why you can’t accomplish them?

I know this to be true because this was me a few years ago and I guarantee most everyone else does it too!

This year I want to offer you a different perspective. Instead of making a laundry list of resolutions that you will never accomplish, I challenge you to make ONE promise to yourself. One promise that you can commit to 100%! One promise that you will do everything in your power and control to make a reality for you. Write it down and put it where you can see it and be reminded of it every day.

What this does is it changes your list of one to ten small resolutions into ONE meaningful movement in your life!

For example, I want to travel to San Francisco and Vegas in 2017 to celebrate my 40th… Yeah, it’s a big year for me!!!

I need to make some big adjustments to make this happen. But I am committed 100% to making it work. Whether it’s a financial adjustment or a childcare adjustment…whatever it is, I will figure it out because it means that much to me.

With that being said, when you have your one promise—your biggest dream/goal—you can still get off track. You can still lose focus if things aren’t manifesting fast enough. You can still lose hope that it won’t happen at all.

And when this happens, it can be easy to start making excuses, which further slows your momentum.

So today, I have a fun exercise for you that you can do when the excuses train pulls into the station… toot, toot!!

I have to credit the lovely Marie Forlio for teaching it to me, but I threw my own spin on it.

Exercise: THE MAGIC 20

Get into a quiet, safe space and take a few deep breaths… Make sure your mind is completely clear. On a piece of notebook paper, write down your ONE goal/dream/promise that you want to achieve—THE BIG ONE!!

Write it in BIG, BOLD LETTERS and say it out loud! “My goal is…”

Now for the fun part! Be creative here. Don’t edit yourself and stop judging!! Write down ten excuses as to why you can’t/won’t achieve this goal.

This is a good practice because we all do it. We start to make excuses, which validates to ourselves why something can’t be done. That’s when we spiral into the negative thinking and self-talk. For most of us we kind of live here and get comfortable, which then causes the dream to feel too big to manifest!

But we also know that when we really want something, we can usually find a way to get it!

So write down the excuses you have…let them all out!! What are they? You don’t have enough money, time, resources, love, the right environment—whatever it is that you tell yourself.

When your excuses are written out, write down ten actionable steps you are willing to do to accomplish your BIG goal.

Maybe it’s finding support in a friend, securing another job, selling something, hiring a trainer, buying a membership to an organization, or taking a trip. Maybe it’s even leaving your partner if it’s a bad relationship.

The actions will vary for everyone, but once you do this simple exercise your mind will begin to shift because you’ll see how much is in your control after all!

And don’t forget too that there is a Higher Power at work for us to fill in the rest. The Universe is working hard to bring the right gifts to us, even if they don’t come in the form we may have wanted.

A Coach recently told me that I am more in my masculine energy, which means that I’m a doer. I use logic. I need certainty. This year, one of my goals is to be more in the feminine energy because that’s where you create more beauty, that’s where you experience vulnerability, that’s where you have trust and stronger faith.

Being in the masculine energy is not a bad thing—it’s gotten me to where I am today, but it’s also important to work at balance. I look at most of the people in my life and I see a lot of that masculine energy—that constant doing—because let’s face it, we’re all busy and running around in our lives and not necessarily trusting enough in our own power and that of the Universe!

You need both the masculine and the feminine. You need goals and dreams and maybe sometimes “resolutions” in order to feel a part of something—purposeful if you will. But if you really want to make your dreams a reality this year then stop with the excuses, go after what you want no matter the risks, and bring more TRUST into your life.

Continue to be uniquely you!

 

P.S. Comment below and share your ONE promise!

 

 

My first blog on the new website – “Up close and personal”


This is the first blog post on my new site. It should be exciting, not to mention rewarding, to watch the vision of my site come to life and to be writing its very first blog!

However, I have a confession to make. Writing has never been easy. It’s always been a struggle. Growing up with learning disabilities and PTSD made school and learning extremely difficult.

In fact, I was told to hire someone to write this, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. There was something deep within that kept me from asking for help. I knew it wasn’t fear, because I’m never fearful of asking for help, so when I dug really deep, I realized that it was an intuitive pull to keep writing… because something amazing would happen. I would somehow find the words and it would be easy because it was coming from my heart.

And so here it goes…

Wedding planning is what you see.

I am the person you come to with details and logistics. I am the one that works with you to put your wedding together from idea to execution. I am the one that conceptualizes your vision and makes it a reality.

That’s me…right?

Wrong. It’s not all of me—it’s just a piece of me. It’s my job. Cameron Diaz once said it best in an interview (and I’m paraphrasing here): ‘Actor is not who I am. It’s my job!’

My job is Wedding Planner. I offer a luxury service, in which I give my clients the best of me. I bring together all that I’m really good at along with the tools that I know they need and wallah! Their wedding is fabulous. It’s amazing. It’s everything they hoped it would be and more.

So as I started the journey of my rebrand, I had to identify what I’m REALLY good at and that should be easy, right? Wrong again! It’s not!

What I found was that I’m not good at just ONE thing—I’m good at SO many things. What I’m really great at is making sense of very complicated situations. I have the ability to simplify a project with many moving parts. I can break it down into pieces so that it’s not so overwhelming. This skill is something that I acquired long ago when I had to break things down in order to understand my world. It’s a skill that has served me very well as Wedding Planner.

However, after a long and difficult couple of years, my business was not thriving as I thought it should. I was in the throws of being a wife and a mother of four and I knew I wanted more, but I had no idea how to get it.

During this time, I found it very rewarding to sit back and reflect. Eventually, what emerged was the realization that I no longer wanted to be a multi-tasking queen. Although society convinces us that multi-tasking is smart and a valued trait in the way of event planning, it actually isn’t the best practice because we are not as productive when we have a lot of things in process. We need to focus on one thing and make it great.

I also realized that when you are stuck and dependent on “making it,” you lose your balance and it’s no longer fun anymore. Yet, when you find something that excites you, it’s exactly like taking the training wheels off for the first time—the fear is paralyzing, but once you start to peddle and the momentum picks up and you have no choice but to ride, YOU RIDE!

So right now in my life, I AM RIDING. Not only have a found a voice in what I do, but now I can teach and talk about it with authenticity—with real knowledge and experience that I have earned. No longer do I need my training wheels.

Life is funny. What we know on the surface is never what’s deep within.

I deal heavily with a chronic condition and I am always asking: “Why me? Why now?” I have so much to offer and I have a life to live for my family.

If there is one thing I’ve learned through this re-brand and connecting with my inner-self, it’s this: “Why NOT me?” And why NOT you?

I am not invisible to pain or suffering, but I determine what I will do on those pain free days. I have chosen to stop asking and start doing. With the help of my friend Josette, who is a wonder woman and a strong nutritional educator, I am finding a healthier balance in my life. And as I transition from Wedding Planner to Andy D., Entrepreneur, Coach, and Speaker, I see just how limitless we are and what we do with our talents and unique gifts is our choice. We can bury them or we can move with them.

Doing the inner work isn’t easy. It’s truly hard to stop what you’re doing and take the time to look within—to break down and fall apart and maybe not know exactly what the next steps will be, other than knowing that you want more of what makes you happy.

I believe time is a form of “energy” and what you do with that “energy” is your choice. People frequently ask me: “Andrea, how do you do it all?” At first I could never really answer, I just knew I did it. But after my time of reflection, I realized something—I did it because it made me happy and I do it selfishly everyday so I can continue to be happy.

Being creative is who I am, and I am that multi-passionate person that loves creative, out-of-the-box, challenging things, but what I find most rewarding is talking about my passion and helping other people find their gifts and passions—their happy. Whether it’s through an event or a workshop or anything that will help me reach them and inspire them.

Some people live most of their lives never stepping outside of the confines of complacency and contentment to find what they are truly passionate about. In other words, their training wheels never come off…

With this new rebrand, it’s my job to help you take them off. To hold the bike, like I do for my children, as you peddle harder in spite of fear, as you pick up momentum, and as you finally move on your own with the freedom that comes from riding out your passion.

As I continue to write my book, produce extraordinary events, teach, and create more and more… again not easy, but I feel less paralyzed with fear—I hope you’ll join me in this new adventure. I’ve gone from the girl who never felt smart enough to be successful to finding ways to be successfully ME. I’m so much happier and freer and that is what I wish for you.

To bring this blog to a close, I ask you to reflect on one thing—on one person who has made a difference in your movement.

I don’t know if I ever told this person that I admire them and their strengths, however, when a person can smile and put on a beautiful face every day even when s/he may be falling apart, I admire that.

So Sherri, I dedicate this blog to you. Although I never told you this, I think your strength and faith is an amazing gift and your attitude towards negativity astounds me. You always remain poised and classy. You are and always will be the one that took me through some of my darkest days and brought sunlight to my life! Thank you for that. And if I’m ever stressed over a situation, all I have to ask is: “What would Sherri do?” It’s in that moment that I know to have faith and move with it!

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